Reading a great book by Steve Farrar titled “Point Man”. In a section he talks about Satan’s two specific ways of waging war on the family. Strategy #1 To effectively alienate and sever a husband’s relationship with his wife. This can be either physical or emotional. Strategy #2 To effectively alienate and sever a father’s relationship with his children. Again either physically or emotionally. We see this on a daily basis around us and for some, in their family or extended family. Here are a few statistics that show how important a Godly husband and father is to the family.
- One out two marriages end in divorce
- The median age for divorce is thirty-four for men and thirty for women
- In 1960, one out of every ten households was maintained by a woman with no husband present; in 1996, two out of every five households was maintained by a woman with no husband present.
- Tonight, enough teenagers to fill the Rose Bowl, Cotton Bowl, Sugar Bowl, Orange Bowl, Fiesta Bowl, and the average Super Bowl will practice prostitution to support drug addictions.
- One million teenage girls will get pregnant out of wedlock this year.
- Five hundred thousand of those girls will abort their babies.
- Of all the fourteen-year-old girls alive today, 40 percent will become pregnant by their nineteenth birthday.
- Sixty percent of all church-involved teenagers are sexually active.
- Every seventy-eight seconds, a teenager in America attempts suicide.
I am not writing this to bring everyone down. This is an example of how import we are men, to society through our effect on our family. Men, we need step up and be the example for our wives and children. If you didn’t have a great example as a father I’m sorry but you break the cycle of dysfunction. I suggest finding a mentor, someone who has the the kind of family you want yours to be. Second read, read, and read. Start with this book, I would also recommend the Bible. Regardless of what modern society says the principles in there are as current today as they were when it was written. Third, forgive yourself, you can not change what happened in the past. If you have suffered one or all of these statistics all you can do is forgive yourself and then ask those involved to forgive you. Then, ask God for help and resolve to grow yourself and be the example you would be proud of. I’m no expert or have any plaques of certification on the wall in this area. I’ve been married for almost 20 years, have 3 children and pray daily that I can be the husband and father they deserve, knowing that many times I fall short. My goal is to lift up the men striving to be the example and encourage all men that God has put the seeds of greatness in you. You have what it takes to lead your family, it is not only critical to your families but our country.