Point Man – How a man can lead his family

Reading a great book by Steve Farrar titled “Point Man”.  In a section he talks about Satan’s two specific ways of waging war on the family.  Strategy #1 To effectively alienate and sever a husband’s relationship with his wife.  This can be either physical or emotional.  Strategy #2 To effectively alienate and sever a father’s relationship with his children.  Again either physically or emotionally.   We see this on a daily basis around us and for some, in their family or extended family.  Here are a few statistics that show how important a Godly husband and father is to the family.

  • One out two marriages end in divorce
  • The median age for divorce is thirty-four for men and thirty for women
  • In 1960, one out of every ten households was maintained by a woman with no husband present; in 1996, two out of every five households was maintained by a woman with no husband present.
  • Tonight, enough teenagers to fill the Rose Bowl, Cotton Bowl, Sugar Bowl, Orange Bowl, Fiesta Bowl, and the average Super Bowl will practice prostitution to support drug addictions.
  • One million teenage girls will get pregnant out of wedlock this year.
  • Five hundred thousand of those girls will abort their babies.
  • Of all the fourteen-year-old girls alive today, 40 percent will become pregnant by their nineteenth birthday.
  • Sixty percent of all church-involved teenagers are sexually active.
  • Every seventy-eight seconds, a teenager in America attempts suicide.

I am not writing this to bring everyone down.  This is an example of how import we are men, to society through our effect on our family.  Men, we need step up and be the example for our wives and children.  If you didn’t have a great example as a father I’m sorry but you break the cycle of dysfunction.  I suggest  finding a mentor, someone who has the the kind of family you want yours to be.  Second read, read, and read.  Start with this book, I would also recommend the Bible.  Regardless of what modern society says the principles in there are as current today as they were when it was written.  Third, forgive yourself, you can not change what happened in the past.  If you have suffered one or all of these statistics all you can do is forgive yourself and then ask those involved to forgive you.  Then, ask God for help and resolve to grow yourself and be the example you would be proud of.   I’m no expert or have any plaques of certification on the wall in this area.  I’ve been married for almost 20 years, have 3 children and pray daily that I can be the husband and father they deserve, knowing that many times I fall short.  My goal is to lift up the men striving to be the example and encourage all men that God has put the seeds of greatness in you.   You have what it takes to lead your family, it is not only critical to your families but our country.

God Bless.

Mental Fitness Challenge

Taking the 90 day Mental Fitness Challenge!  Awesome, Awesome information.  I believe this is an absolute phenomenal place for anyone to start their self-education and self-improvement journey.  This program will not only point out the areas of weakness in one’s life but also start them on the proper trail of habits to grow personally.  Please review the post by Orrin Woodward and Chris Brady regarding the Mental Fitness Challenge.  I highly recommend taking the 7 day Free Challenge and get a taste of the information.  If your brave enough to do that I believe you want to buckle up for the full 90 days.

God Bless and Lead On.

Monumental, In Search of America’s National Treasure.

Looks like a great movie one night event.


Chris Brady’s “Tearing Down the Play Set”

Please take the time to read Chris’s post.  Tearing Down the Play Set.

It is so relevant to whats going on in our society today.  Just recently my 14 year old son came home from school, physically upset, over the family struggles of several of his friends.  He said, Dad it seems all my friends parents are divorced or separated.  I probably don’t thank the Lord as much as I should that I have loving wife willing to grow and improve our marriage constantly.    In fact most of the time I have to study just to catch up to her.  It is something I never want to take for granted.  Thanks to our Mentors, LIFE, our own resolve, and our faith, our marriage is always growing.  In our “fast food” have it now society fewer people are willing to put in the work to improve their marriage.  Unfortunately the divorce rate is not drastically different in our Churches today, but that is a whole different post.  I have seen it explained this way and personally believe it to be true. 

As a husband and wife grow closer to God they grow closer to each another.  I hope and pray that more people will decide to “get better” than to “get out”.

God Bless and Lead On.

Thomas Stone, one of my favorite Founding Fathers. Freedom, Leadership.

With all his accomplishments as a lawyer, delegate to the Continental Congress, committee member for the drafting of the Articles of Confederation, and signer of the Declaration of Independence, the following line tells me what kind of man he was.

But he gave up the practice of law to care for Margaret and their growing children. As her health continued to decline, he gradually withdrew from public life. When Margaret died in 1787, he became depressed and died less than four months later in Alexandria, reportedly of a “broken heart”.

Only 44 at his death he left a legacy and a mark on history.  Not much is known about his life in total but I believe Thomas was probably working on all 8 F’s in his life. We know he was strong in Family, Freedom, and Finance.

God Bless and Lead On.

Advice from Good Marriages.

Matthew 26:41 “Watch and pray so that you will not fall into temptation. The spirit is willing, but the body is weak.” Married couples always have accountability when dealing with the opposite sex.  Don’t trust your flesh and don’t assume that everyone else has their flesh in control.  Most people fall into sexual sin, by allowing themselves to be placed in circumstances that seem very innocent at the time.  I try to never place myself in a situation that would cause someone to question my activities.  Something as simple as sharing a ride with someone of the opposite sex, without your spouse, could raise questions or start rumors.  Eating lunch alone with a co-worker of the opposite sex could raise eyebrows.  It could be completely innocent but still bring intentions into question.  Men, Adam didn’t do so well in the garden.  He didn’t protect Eve or himself from temptation.  We need to be vigilant for ourselves, our wives, and our families.

God Bless and Lead On

What we all want in LIFE is a shot.

This story about Jason McElwain is five years old but I remember it like it was yesterday.   Every time I watch the video I get choked up.  It is truly a made for Disney script.  An autistic boy who didn’t see himself as different from anyone else, he was as excited to be team manager as he would have been to be a player.  Finally as a senior and on senior night J. Mac was put into the game and the rest only the video can do justice.

In an article Jason’s father said that Jason was not afraid of failure like other kids, a result of his autism.  Just think what heights we could all reach if we were just a little less afraid of failure.

God Bless and Lead On.